'IS IT ME?'
The hidden system behind toxic relationships.
SEE THE SYSTEM.
SUPPORT the SURVIVOR.
Once you “SEE” the system you will never be able to “UN-SEE” it.
Photo: H. Schjølberg
60 years of experience
How would it feel to walk alongside the story of someone who truly believed she came from a happy family, who repeatedly chose toxic partners, who was bullied at work for a year and a half, and only recently discovered her father is a narcissist?
What would it mean to have access to all the insights I’ve gathered over the past 60 years, right at your fingertips, so that you can make your next most important decision when it comes to relationships at work, at home or with friends, fully informed?
Photo credit : Arne Beck
SEE THE SYSTEM. SUPPORT THE SURVIVOR.
A practical talk to reduce shame, avoid collusion with abusers, and restore a survivor’s confidence.
WHAT IS THIS TALK ABOUT?
Toxic relationships aren’t random, they’re a system.
I map that system in plain language so frontline helpers, family and friends can spot patterns faster, respond without re‑traumatizing, and support survivors without empowering the abuser.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN?
Spot the system early: how it starts, sad‑story red flags, and “seatbelt” moments.
Feel and name the harm: micro‑cuts, the felt sense of unhealthy dynamics, and the trap thoughts that keep you stuck.
Navigate people and timing: how friends and family become enablers.
What is the danger window and why it matters.
Move forward safely: practical disengagement, how to be a true ally, what to teach the next generation, and why post‑abuse self‑care rebuilds trust in yourself.
WHO IS IT FOR?
Coaches, therapists, social workers, police, legal professionals, medical teams, and women’s and health organizations and anybody serving survivors of abuse.
WHY IT MATTERS?
Recognition for victims means this: we don’t minimize, we don’t explain it away, we witness, we believe, we validate and we support
Faster identification of toxic behavior, spot patterns faster
Safer outcomes for survivors and better protection during and after abuse.
FORMAT
Keynote: 40–60 minutes including Q&A
Virtual delivery available
BOOKING
Speaking fee: from $500
Virtual or in‑person.
Europe‑based; travels by arrangement.
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